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Safety pins to the rescue, or just another feel good moment for white people?

November 13, 2016 by Kate Mayer 9 Comments

Why you should wear a safety pin, and then do more
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About this whole safety-pin campaign, inspiring people wear a visible safety-pin in solidarity with groups (too many to list) threatened by the sexual-predator-elect.

I ain’t gonna lie, I kinda like it. But then again, I’m only a cis-non-religious-middle-aged-slightly-overweight-white-woman, not as nearly targeted as the vast marginalized populations on Trump’s you’re-not-like-me hit list.

The safety-pin takes guess-work out of who is on the side of human decency. Instead of wondering if they voted for hate, people know at the sight of the pin, they (most likely) did not.

The goal is to offer solidarity to disenfranchised groups affected by the sexual predator elect (too many to list), so they know by the sight of a safety-pin, they have a supportive friend nearby. Like seeing a Yankee jersey at Fenway. Or a Bills jersey anywhere. (ouch)

The thing is, black people have been wondering this their whole lives, who’s the racist and who isn’t – with no safety pin for easy identification. Take a listen to writer Amber Ruffin as she breaks it down for ya’ll:

Rightfully so, there is a well-deserved backlash from many people of color (POC) outraged that white folks think wearing a little safety-pin will fix things.

It won’t.

“Ally theater,” is acting like you care with a small inconsequential act that makes you feel good, without having to really do anything. We see it all the time: well-meaning people doing what’s right for the virtual audience, for social causes trending, for the mass shooting du jour, but behind the screen, off-line, in real life where actions really matter, the contribution is – um, nil.

The safety-pin movement has all the signs of “ally theater,” judging from my predominantly white thread of Facebook friends, all to eager to don the pin. To make a difference. To be a friend. Friends of color are leery, with good reason, considering this yet another way of allowing white people to feel like they are doing something without having to do anything at all.

And they would be right.

Changing a profile pic in wake of a tragedy is something, but is it nearly enough when there is so much at risk?

Maybe instead, we could pick up the phone and call Congress or a local representative and demanding human rights, or donating to a worthy related cause, or, I dunno, call me crazy, voting to keep scum out of the White House.

A safety-pin doesn’t do those things.

But that’s not its job.

A safety-pin pieces together something that would otherwise fall apart, temporarily, until a more permanent solution can be found.

So I say wear the pin. But I’m a white woman.

But a white woman with a blog so here goes it:

To wear the safety-pin or not to wear the pin: that is the question

  1. Don’t assume those who wear safety pins in a sign of solidarity to at-risk, disenfranchised people in the new Trump regime make the pin their only commitment to eradicating racism and [insert atrocity here]-ism.
  2. And people, especially us white people, don’t think wearing the safety-pin is the only thing you should be doing. Let it be part of your effort, not your only effort.

There’s work to be done if we’re to stitch together the fabric of our country in a desperate hope to keep it from unraveling from the White House down.


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Comments

  1. Kathy Radigan says

    November 14, 2016 at 9:00 am

    Yes! Amen! Thank you very much!!!!!

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    • Kate Mayer says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:21 am

      thx for the kind read & share!

      Reply
  2. Jennifer Bairos says

    November 14, 2016 at 9:09 am

    I love this! I always feel conflicted about jumping on the bandwagon du jour. I don’t want to seem like a jerk for not supporting disenfranchised groups, but I feel that changing my profile picture on Facebook is likely not going to affect real change. Just like you said, those things cannot be the only effort we put forth.

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    • Kate Mayer says

      November 14, 2016 at 10:20 am

      i’ve heard great success stories of safety pin campaign! Don’t ever hesitate to do good; even tiny steps.

      Reply
  3. Risa says

    November 14, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    Well said, my friend. Now that I am an (ahem) official senior citizen, I am feeling bolder about telling people to get off my metaphorical lawn. Don’t just change your FB profile or put your name on a petition that goes nowhere. It’s time (and I am pointing the finger at myself here) to get off my still not-bad-looking ass and make some noise where it matters. Today, Day 1, I’m going to figure out what that means to me. You, girlfriend, are an inspiration. I also wrote a post today about related matters, and I don’t even care if no one reads it. First steps on the long road ahead. Love to you for all you do.

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    • Kate Mayer says

      November 14, 2016 at 4:05 pm

      Thank you so much for doing. Anything. Everything. This. Thank you.

      Reply
  4. Janine Huldie says

    November 15, 2016 at 10:01 am

    Said beautifully and perfectly. I was debating this myself as I definitely am not happy with the way the election turned out and even shared a bit on my own blog last week. But you are right we do need to do more than just wear a safety pin. We really have a lot of hard work ahead and thank you so much for the reminder here in all honesty.

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    • Kate Mayer says

      November 15, 2016 at 11:29 am

      Thx for the read and generous comment! Go ahead and wear the pin, the campaign is offering great support to many, but it’s important to do more as well. Cuz doing nothing and watching while others are marginalized has got us here, and only we can get us out.

      Reply

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