I have a lawyer friend who I’ve used and abused on many occasions: when domestic violence broke a soul; when alcohol destroyed a marriage; when mental illness invaded a family; when ageism led to layoffs; when special education services were revoked; when misdiagnosis led to mayhem.  I trust him. He personally advised, consoled, cajoled and educated me on demand: calmly, professionally, and empathetically. At midnight. On Sunday mornings. At his