Did you stop working permanently immediately after you had your first child? Or second?
Probably not. Most of my readers are professional, educated, smart, driven women who didn’t for the life of them picture themselves driving ridiculously pathetic minivans back and forth to playgroups where the benefits of classical music in utero, or never-ever-ever eating at McDonald’s, or the secret mission of evil Teletubbies’ quest to corrupt society, were discussed ad nauseum.
We eased into it. “Of course I’m coming back to work.” Not a fabrication because we had every intent to do so. We were not on that Mommy track; we were not one of them, those stay-at-home moms – ridiculous. We were women, hear us roar.
But, then life happened. And our attitudes changed. And we (silently) apologized to every stay-at-home mom we ever rolled our eyes at.
And full-time became job-share. And job-share became part-time. Then part-time telecommuting. And telecommuting consulting. Then project-by-project basis. Then freelance. Then, three kids later, you need a bigger car and you’re driving the minivan you swore you’d never own and feeding the kids french fries off the floor.
The thing is, stop panicking about going back to work. You eased out of it, now ease back into it. Window shop job search sites. Participate in forums and groups specific to your industry. Or just listen in. Talk to people. Ask questions. Create a LinkedIn account. Reconnect with long-lost colleagues. It’s a process. Baby steps, sisters, baby steps.