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We Lost a Good Guy

October 15, 2010 by Kate Mayer 9 Comments

My town is grieving. Again. We lost one of the good guys. The really, really good guys who makes you want to be a better person every single day.

You know those dads. The ones that don’t seem to have a job? They’re everywhere: coaching, open house, clinics, dance recitals. Football fields, lacrosse games, art shows. They not only have time for their own kids, but they make time for everyone else’s as well. Everybody knows his face, few know him more than “Coach,” and his family and friends know and love him inside and out.

We lost a good one, and now my town is hurting.

His own kids may be a talents of their own rite, but he makes your kid feel like a rock star. Even though he sucks. Even though she screwed up …  even though. That booming voice across the field inspires athleticism and laughter. Confidence and humility. Never shame. Never remorse. Never fear. Not ever.

And he did so calmly.  Not quietly, but calmly.  
In a big bear, rip-roaring Santa Claus, larger-than-life sort of way. 

We lost a good one this week. A tragedy that extends past his own family and seeps into ours.

Hug ’em up. All those Dads out there. And Dads? Get on a field or concert hall or scout troop someplace. Be a hero to your own kid and others. Be big and be kind. And know by loving up all the kids, they’ll grow up and remember. And they’ll want to be just like you.


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Comments

  1. Anonymous says

    October 15, 2010 at 6:39 pm

    SO, SO, SO, incredibly Sad

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  2. dottie says

    October 15, 2010 at 8:43 pm

    Crying again – we lost a really really good one this week.

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  3. Laura says

    October 16, 2010 at 11:59 am

    There is a huge hole in our hearts and our town is at loss for words. Chris, we do not know how to go on without you.

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  4. Nancy says

    October 16, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    Thank you for your beautiful words.

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  5. Carolyn says

    October 16, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    So true. We are heatbroken but better for having had Chris in our lives.

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  6. Marlene says

    October 16, 2010 at 6:35 pm

    I didn’t know Chris personally however, my son did. I can’t think of a better way to honor the enthusiasm and love for life that he passed on to the kids than for all the football boys and cheerleaders to go out Sunday and play their hearts out in honor of one of their coaches. Thoughts and prayers with his family.

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  7. Michelle Saunderson says

    October 18, 2010 at 2:18 am

    Sorry to hear about such a loss.

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  8. Kathy (p/t writer, f/t mom) says

    October 18, 2010 at 4:12 pm

    Thx people. Thanks for recognizing this guy and his contributions to our town.

    Reply

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  1. The good part about losing your job - Kathryn Mayer says:
    February 5, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    […] the cool thing about getting the axe: you’re not six feet under turning into compost when all the people reflect, remember, and want to give back to a guy that […]

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An irreverent storyteller with a foul mouth and big heart, Kathryn Mayer (aka Kathy and/or Kate) is a writer, humorist, and activist writing out loud with humor and grace about little life moments with big ripples, including the space between parenting and aging parents, social issues, angsty reflections of midlife, and, sigh, gun humpers. Still. Sometimes a big deal, sometimes not Mayer is a national award-winning columnist, according to the National Society of Newspaper Columnists, and her essays have been recognized as Voice of the Year … Read More Here...

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